Guys,
Some good ideas here.
Re: custom forum buttons. I don't see a way to do it, but it's a good idea.  I'm not a good graphic designer, so I wouldn't be able to make new buttons.
Re: red text color.  Yeah it sucks.  I don't need my name to be in red, thanks very much!  

    For some reason, they didn't use CSS for that- it's done somewhere else.  Anyway, I'll find and fix it.
Re: the big white balls - you're right, the old buttons had dark backgrounds.  I can't remember where I got these - i think one of our forum members fixed them up for us.   I'll attach our old buttons here for reference.
No, it's not a contest, I was just hoping for a little help on fixing up the buttons.  As I said, I'm not that good at graphic design.  
Also, there's still lots of little tweaks to the theme that need to be done - like the orange-on-white "Tip" in the posting window, the red-on-green text, etc.  I'll fix them as we go...
Cheers,
-John